“My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.”–Shakti Gawain
Early in transition, it was difficult for me to love myself. It was hard for me to even take care of myself, so self-love seemed pretty impossible.
I spent most of my life as a people-pleaser. I hated who I was so much that I constantly sought validation from those around me. While I succeeded in school, with friends, and at home, I felt hollow.
One day, I got tired of lying and just couldn’t do it anymore. Sure, the rewards that came with compliance were yanked away. But other rewards came into my life. I started small and worked outward:
- ate foods I enjoyed
- did free-time activities I liked
- spent time with people who loved ME
- made decisions that would help me (little and big)
Some helpful decisions included:
- finding a…
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